When I watch people try to deal with a problem, I watch their energy. I notice that their energy jumps from the past into the future and then comes back to the present. As they come into the present, chances are they are bringing all the negative experiences from the past and possible unhappy future with them. Dealing with all of these energies at one time makes it much more difficult to come up with a strategy to handle the problem.
When you are confronted with a situation that seems insurmountable, there are several things that you can do.
As you think about this problem, notice where you are in time and space. Are you thinking about the past? Are you thinking about the future?
Instead of using unhappy past to generate an unpleasant future, take a moment to consider with the past really is.
The past is made up of a collection of events, the things we remember about these events, and the meanings that we place on these events. If you listen to three or more people discussing the same event, each one is telling the story of that event. Sometimes the stories overlap. And sometimes the stories of the same event are really quite different.
But in the final analysis, the past is a collection of stories. And the only ability the past has to affect our future is the power that we choose to give to our stories.
Now notice where you have been sitting. Inhale and exhale. Get up and walk to a new chair, leaving the energy of the problems behind.
Inhale, exhale, and sit down in this new space. This is the present. This is where you can begin to think about what resources you have, and what might be your first step to take to deal with the situation.
If you find that you have slipped back into the past, shift and move in your chair as way of bringing yourself back into the present.
As you continue to think about this situation, be sure to keep returning to the present, because the present is where the solutions are waiting to be uncovered!